The Date Doctor: Walking On Eggshells
If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
For those of you in relationships, there is nothing quite as uncomfortable as walking on eggshells. You’re always worrying about saying the wrong thing, even if you have the best of intentions… and if it’s going good, you never know when it will fall apart. do Jaimy has some tips on how to deal with this situation.
You Can’t Win
No matter how careful you are, there are times your significant other has already decided you’ve screwed up, and sometimes you just can’t win. Be prepared.
This is Their Issue
Be careful coming back and owning anything in one of these arguments, because they are having some kind of fear or anxiety being triggered. It’s not an issue with you.
Walking On Eggshells is a Bad Habit
Every time you walk on those eggshells, you’re just making things worse– this trains a person to expect you to keep walking on those eggshells, while they pile more and more on top of you. We subconsciously say what we will tolerate through our actions, and that’s something we should not be doing.
So how do you solve this tricky predicament? Here’s some ideas:
Ask yourself what you are gaining from a relationship
There’s lots of people that gain many positive things from a relationship, but other people start to ask why they are putting up with some treatment.
Face the fear and speak your mind
Face the fear that they’re going to get mad at you, because the truth is, they’re going to get mad at you anyway. If you’re afraid they will leave, or they will flip out, just find out about it now.
And stand up for yourself– if you do this, you re-train them that you can’t put up with that behavior, and you also get your freedom back to have you own opinions and feelings.
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