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Arguments are a part of any relationship, like it or not… but there’s some things you should NEVER say when you’re arguing. Jaimy breaks down the worst things to say during a fight.
1. You Didn’t Apologize Correctly
If someone in the relationship is willing to step up and apologize, that’s a good thing. Don’t criticize the way someone apologizes… you don’t have to accept the apology, but if the apologizer is genuine in what they say, be happy someone is brave enough to do it.
2. You Don’t Even Know What You Did Wrong
Some people legitimately don’t know what they did wrong… but you need to clearly communicate what they did and why you’re upset. There are times we can also misplace our anger and take it out on someone close to us… so sometimes, the person you’re angry at really DID do nothing wrong. We all have our faults, but try to keep your frustration in perspective.
3. I Will Never Forgive You For This
If you’re really never going to forgive someone, you can say this– but follow it up by packing your bags and leaving. Don’t say things like this if it’s clearly an exaggeration. Also, it’s never a good idea to make big, life-changing decisions in the heat of an argument– wait until later and if you still feel the same way when you’ve calmed down, THEN start thinking of what to do next.
4. Wait ‘Til I Tell (So-and-So)
All this means is you have a loyal friend or relative that will validate you over and over again. This will create animosity between your partner and your friend… and even when you forgive your partner, they might not.
5. You’re Too Sensitive
Some people– especially women– ARE too sensitive, and tend to get emotional… but saying so will NEVER de-escalate a fight. Saying this in the heat of an argument would be like trying to put out a fire with a can of gasoline… Yikes!