If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
When you start dating someone, do you, or do you not, friend them on Facebook? Jaimy says you should NOT, and here’s why…
1. Wrong Impressions
When you don’t know somebody and you go into their Facebook, you will get an impression of them which may not be accurate to who you really are. Facebook is like branding yourself, and whatever you post is part of your brand, for better or worse… So if you tend to use Facebook to vent and complain a lot, that will make you look like negative or whiny person from the outside.
Let’s say you HAVE gotten to know someone you’re seeing a little bit… It’s still risky to Friend them at this point. You could friend a guy on Facebook, then see pics of him at a bar flirting with someone else, because you’re not on the same page with what your relationship is. It can be a mess, and you’re better off not knowing what they’re doing until you decide what the status of your relationship together really is.
3. Facebook Politics
If you or the person you’re seeing have any other romantic leads, or friends with benefits situations, you are going to know all about it if you’re friends on Facebook. Friending someone new may lead to hurt feelings if you share too much with them, or may become a hassle for you having to decide “should I post this, or shouldn’t I?” It’s making things unnecessarily complicated.
Avoiding Facebook friending a potential romantic interest is not about hiding yourself, but about not sharing too much, too soon. So when DO you finally accept that friend request? Jaimy says it should go along with the more intimate aspects of the relationship– when you have sex, or meet the kids or know you have a legitimate relationship, and more than just a fling.