If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
They may seem obvious, but some people still bring up some bad conversation starters during first dates, speed dates and in their online profiles. Today Jaimy has the list of things you should NEVER talk about when you’re first meeting someone new.
For some reason, we tend to feel it forms a bond when we complain and talk about negative things. If you have any stress in your life and you’re heading to a first date, write down the things that are stressing you out, then rip them up, so you can visually remind yourself not to talk about those things. If your date brings up some negative complaints about their life, acknowledge them quickly and move on– they should get the hint and stop complaining, which brings the date to a better place.
2. Your Ex
A lot of times, your date will ask you about an ex. It’s a ridiculous question, because you will never get an honest answer… they will just blame their ex and make themself sound like a saint. Don’t bring it up– if you need to talk about a messy breakup or hard feelings, find a different support system than a potential love interest. Later on, if you’re in an established relationship, you can feel free to share your history with your ex, but not right away.
It seems obvious, but people screw this up all the time (no pun intended). If you’re on a speed date and you’re not really into it, them making a sex comment makes things even worse. If you don’t know there’s a connection there, making a sexual joke is a massive turnoff. Healthy relationships start from knowing and understanding someone– you don’t have to rush into the sexual stuff too quickly.