If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
Technology can be a great thing… but it can also screw things up when you’re newly dating someone. So Jaimy has a few scenarios in which technology can get in the way of romance… and how to fix the problem.
1. Scrolling with my homies
One of Jaimy’s biggest pet peeves is when a first date brings up sharing photos, like “let me show you my kids” or “check out my vacation photos” and then pulls out the cell phone and starts scrolling through pictures. It’s awkward and it’s usually NOT interesting.
2. Friending on Facebook
When you first start dating someone, don’t immediately “friend” them on Facebook. Many of those first dates likely won’t go anywhere, and the process of un-friending someone on Facebook is unpleasant, and unnecessary if you don’t friend them in the first place. Even if you start dating someone, don’t occupy ALL your Facebook time with talking about your dates… it doesn’t look like you have anything else going on, which is not too appealing to a new boyfriend or girlfriend.
3. Don’t movie too fast online
The Date Doctor hosts speed dating events, and some people will immediately head home and post on the Date Doctor Facebook group about what a great time they had. They forget that everyone at the event reads it, too, and boasting about multiple connections from the event could leave a bad taste in a potential date’s mouth, as they feel your time together wasn’t as special for you. Don’t overshare– you look too available.
4. Don’t web chat
Stay away from Skype, SnapChat and the other video chatting forums. If you’re talking to someone on Match.com, don’t video chat with them before you meet them for a real, live date because it usually leads to some skeevy, uncomfortable places.
5. Stop Looking It Up!
If you’re having a conversation on a date about a great local restaurant or bit of trivia, don’t stop to look up the info on your phone. It kills the momentum of the conversation. The dialogue isn’t about being right, it’s about enjoying the chat. Just talk, without your phone… in fact, if at all possible, when you’re on a first date, leave the cell phone in the car.