If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
In honor of Father’s Day, the Date Doctor is here to share some advice for the single Dads out there. See what Jaimy had to say…
1. Don’t complain about your ex
90% of the guys Jaimy works with call their ex wives crazy or bipolar, and she gets where animosity can come from. But there are two ways you should never complain about your ex– to your children (they’ll figure it out on their own), and to the person that you’re dating. It can be hard to get over an ex but if that’s the case, you probably shouldn’t be dating yet.
2. Fully divorce your ex
When you get divorced you lose the other half of the contribution to your household. It can be hard, but you need to get over that, rip that Band Aid off and start doing things yourself. Set rules and boundaries so you are not perpetually interrupting each others’ lives.
3. Don’t let guilt control you
A lot of Dads will be on their way to a date when the ex calls and asks him to take the kids or do something for her. You still have a right to a private life, even if you only see your kids part of the time. It’s still okay to make plans and commit to things and not drop everything each time something comes up. That can lead to your ex learning to manipulate you, and they can abuse that, which could lose you a potential date.
4. Never feel guilty about dating
Single Dads talk about needing to spend as much time as they can with their kids, but if you can get yourself into a happy, healthy relationship, your kids will be happier. We all want to see our parents happy, and the best way to do that is model something that’s great for them. If you can make a good choice romantically, that can help your kids.