If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
This week, the Date Doctor tackles internet dating. Wondering why nobody responds to your messages? The Date Doctor has a lost of some common problems that can be fixed to optimize your online dating potential.
1. There’s something wrong with your profile
This one’s obvious– if you have bad, blurry pictures, you’re not smiling, you’re trying too hard or saying corny things… there are all red flags. Whenever you go on an internet date, ask someone you trust to donate a second set of eyes to your date’s profile to get some advice before going forward.
2. You’re not writing to enough people
A lot of people put their profile up, then only write to one or two people. If you’re serious, treat it like a job– you wouldn’t send a resume out to just one or two jobs… you look for every potential match that’s out there. When you mail out those messages, never keep track– send it and move on, otherwise you’ll drive yourself crazy.
3. You’re not writing the right things
If you’re saying stupid, boring, corny or sexually inappropriate things in your messages, no one is going to reply. Don’t write to the girl “you’re the most beautiful girl I’ve seen on here.” You’re not gonna fool us, we’re too smart for that.
4. Profiles are not active and not real
When you expire, your profile won’t come down unless you hide it. People may still write to you, you just can’t read it if you’re not an active member. Getting notices of these messages might pull you right back in again, but if you’re sending a message that goes ignored, keep in mind it could be going to an inactive profile.
5. You’re writing the wrong people
If you’re messaging people not fitting your criteria, you won’t get a response. If you’re 50, be honest and don’t rely on cliches like being “young at heart.” Stay within the ballpark of the range of your criteria.
6. You’re not giving 100%
Internet dating can be like a diet– if you’re on a diet you don’t eat a low-calorie treat one day and then pig out a day later. You need to consistently give 100%.