She’s an expert on all things love and romance (and hot pants)… If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
This week, the Date Doctor is answering YOUR questions. Check out her answers to dating and relationship questions sent in by listeners just like you!
Susan from Waterbury: Why do people send smiles instead of messages on internet dating sites?
Date Doctor: Men are getting fed up because they don’t get a lot of responses from females, so they don’t want to spend time crafting a personal email to be ignored. They send a smile as a quick message to say ‘are you even remotely attracted to my profile?’ The people that have been on there a long time are trying to get a quick, yes or no pulse on whether you want to chat with them.
Shaniqua from New Britain: Why is it that men say they want a relationship yet never quite commit to one?
Date Doctor: It could be she’s attracting men who don’t want a relationship, or doing something to mess it up so they don’t want a relationship with her. Some guys write that they want a relationship just to entice you, with no intention to follow through on it.
Lisa from Manchester: Is it too much to expect your boyfriend to be your best friend?
Date Doctor: Yes. You need to keep a best friend outside your relationship, because a lot of times women have much higher emotional needs and need for extra support, which could become a conflict in the confines of their relationship.
Ethyl from Bethel: What is the best way to get the guy I’m dating to text me more during the week? We have busy schedules and don’t see each other during the week and I need that reassurance.
Date Doctor: Get a life, maybe a best friend, maybe a hobby… Some guys don’t like to text and call all the time, it can be really annoying and come across as a real insecurity. You never want to put this ultimatum on it, making them check in all the time– you want him to text you and call you because he’s thinking about you and he likes you, not because you have put a demand on him.
Kyle from Southbury: I am trying to make a date with a woman who has a busy schedule. I feel like I am bending over backwards but dfon’t want to seem insensitive as I get frustrated.
Date Doctor: She’s probably not that interested in you. If your schedule is so busy she can’t find the time to date you, you need to stiop bending over backwards because that’s very un-sexy. He needs to back off and say “hey, it sounds like you’re really busy, if you have a free moment, let me know and we can hang out.” The more available you are the less attractive it becomes.