If you’re looking for love, then listen up– Jaimy Blazynski, the Date Doctor is here!
This week, the Date Doctor has some love advice for the single mothers out there, on how to balance being the best parent you can be along with a healthy, happy romantic life!
Mothers often feel guilty getting a babysitter to go out on a date, but they shouldn’t– it’s better to go out and get that sitter, so the kid learns to rely on other people, too. Let your little one form a relationship with a neighbor or a friend, someone who can take care of them, so they don’t think they need to depend only on Mommy so much. It’s also nice to show your kid you have a life outside of them, too.
Moms on dates tend to get stressed out and stay glued to their phones, in case the kids need something. Again, not the best thing to do– it’s nature to want to protect your kids, but you need to let your kids know you trust them to resolve their own problems without always needing you. The more you give them the chance to do that, the less likely they are to call and distract you… and the more likely you’ll be able to enjoy your time out.
Another common issue is women controlled by their ex. Yes, you have kids together, but if you’re heading to a singles event or a date, and your ex calls trying to get you to handle a trivial issue with the kids, you don’t have to drop everything automatically. If it’s not important, your kid will live without it, and maybe even learn to prepare better next time.
Many parents can over-coddle their kids without even realizing it, and when you’re dating someone, the person you’re seeing might point that out to you. Don’t get defensive, because they might offer some really good tips you can learn from. Face the truth, because once you do you may be able to change your behavior for the better.
Another big one– have a hobby outside of your children! We all know the people, especially on Facebook, who post nothing but their kids 24-7… never anything about their own interests or their own life. You need to have other interests, especially if you’re going to be dating. People don’t want the ONLY thing you can talk about to be your kids. Sometimes you might date a person who can’t deal with dating a Mom, and remember that’s okay– you don’t need to create drama about him not liking your children. We all don’t align with everybody… just walk away, understand that they couldn’t do it, and find somebody that will accept you and your kids.
Lastly, the best thing you can do for your kids is model a healthy relationship. You’re not doing them favors by giving up on that!